We’re all migrants: The migration story of my sister and brother-in-law

Last week, my sister and now brother-in-law got married at Zenger Farms in Portland, Oregon. For some reason that I’m still trying to figure out, they asked me to officiate the wedding. This post is a condensed version of the reflection I shared.


Over the past 4 weeks leading up to the wedding, Krysta, Danny and I went through a “reverse pre-marriage counseling course”: rather then me guide them on the impossible task of what marriage will be like, they essentially shared stories and lessons about their journey so far, how they’ve gotten to where we are today. Or, in other words: their migration story.

Scene 1

Our star-crossed lovers’ story starts in a way you might expect a French film to start. In fact, it literally starts at a French film: at the French film festival in San Jose, Costa Rica.

Scene 2

Our next scene is what makes this migration story not just a French Film though. Not just a summertime thing, but a thing with a chance at finding forever.

Scene 3

Which brings us to Scene 3 — the Wilderness — where apparently Danny had to learn the hard way that when someone tells you there’s a bear behind the bush, there’s probably a bear behind the bush.

Scene 4

Which brings us to an unexpected place in our next scene: Pakistan.

Let there be spaces in your togetherness
and let the winds of the heavens dance between you
stand together yet not too near together:
for the pillars of the temple stand apart.

Scene 5

And so, our final scene of this migration story brings us back to Here, to this very beautiful and still surreal moment at Zenger Farm on September 9, 2017. A moment of perfect happiness.

“it is common to take a dog for a walk, it is less common to take a dream for a walk” || @amalacademy + @understory cofounder | nature novel in progress

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